political gay~ 18 ~ strange situations
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It’s okay to be a lesbian and be a sexual being. You are not gross or predatory for being a lesbian who likes sex. You aren’t a bad person if you like casual sex. You are allowed to be sexual with other women. That isn’t a poor reflection of who you are or what kind of person that makes you. Your love of women isn’t wrong.
This applies double to trans lesbians, lesbians of color, butch lesbians, fat lesbians, and disabled lesbians.
“I’m a femme butch or maybe butch femme idk” sis you’re a gay girl with more than one outfit, it’s fine, you don’t have to feel connected to femme or butch it’ll be okay
I’ve gotten so many sweet messages about this and I just wanna say love y’all. We’re all trynna figure out what it means to be a gay girl in this world and I just wanna let every single gay girl know there’s no wrong way to be gay. We’ll take you just as you are. Welcome home, welcome home.
the qween. also i’ve finally moved to a country where it’s *legal to be gay* this is honestly so big i can’t wait to actually not risk my life whenever i open up to someone but like? how do you know if someone’s gonna be gay?? like idk how to do this gay stuff without badly kept secrets and code words??
Anonymous asked:
todayifeltproud answered:
YASSSSSSS YOU AMAZING HUMAN!!!!
fat butch women aren’t ‘a stereotype to avoid’, they’re a wildly under- and misrepresented demographic inordinately targeted by the ‘predatory lesbian’ trope
and they deserve better
in stone butch blues leslie feinberg talked abt the 3 items of women’s clothing rule where the police who raided lesbian bars wld check to see how much these women were still upholding femininity. i have never been thru that but i remember reading it + how much it resonated w me. this rule has not been expelled from our cultures mentality… i remember telling a straight woman i was considering getting a buzzcut + the 1st thing she said was ‘oh, they look great w big hoop earrings.’ there’s like a sort of balancing act where for every item of men’s clothing u’ve got to do penance thru makeup + accessories……. + its got everything to do w reassuring the person viewing you, who might feel challenged by ur shirt or jacket or jeans + so needs to be able to look down n take comfort from the pair of heels on ur feet. saddest manifestation is definitely when we internalize it– when the fear of being marked not-woman makes us wear sth we hate, just for some tie 2 femininity. the more masculine the clothing, the thicker the makeup
it’s so hilarious to me that straight women think they are so irresistible to us gay women that we are just waiting to pounce on them as soon as we’re in the same space like nah we can smell your homophobia from miles away you fucking gremlins
reblog to kill the predatory lesbian myth
